ASK GLITTER: Best Friend Problems

1My best friend and I have been friends for 14 years but she did a few things I didn’t like and we haven’t spoken in almost 6 months now. I wanted to reach out to her and fix things, but after me always making the move first over and over, I wanted her to reach out and realize something is wrong and she still hasn’t. I don’t want to lose her friendship. What can I do? -Maria, NY

Glitter: If the friendship means that much to you, reach out to her. Sometimes, we have to be the stronger or bigger person, even when others make mistakes. Everyone may not be as sensitive, strong and knowledgeable as you when it comes to friend relationships. There are so many factors that cause people to act a certain way, like their relationships at home with their families. Maybe the way she grew up causes her to act a certain way in her friendship with you and doesn’t allow her the communication skills to reach out to you and make up. Try reaching out and if it doesn’t work out, there is nothing lost. Don’t worry about your ego in always being the first one to try and mend the fence. It just shows what a sweet and kind friend you are. It’s not a sign of weakness.